I think that Ms.Chua can do whatever she wants to her children, but I don't think it is right to write books of her memoirs, because it may effect other people's way of parenting. Take a undemanding parenting family for example, they are perfectly happy with what they have, but suddenly after the parents read about Amy Chua's parenting style, they start doing a demanding type of parenting. The children will soon find themselves exhausted, because they are not used to it. Ms.Chua's children has been in this type of "harsh" parenting for almost two decades, I do not think that they are already used to it ever since they were five! Also, I think her memoirs are a little bit too personal, through the articles I have read, it seems that she explains everything, even the extremely harsh treatments. I think that many people find it disturbing rather than an entertainment. If I were to read her book, I would feel the pain while reading it, because it is just WAY too hard. I have a demanding mom too, and like Amy's husband, an un-demanding father, who encourages me in several different ways. I think the way I am improving is through the power of my dad. When I was living with him a few months ago, I noticed how the free time he has given me allowed me to do homework by myself, and being responsible, quite frankly. It is not being forced to do something, most of the kids now will not go with the things they are forced to do. You must make a child like what a parent wants them to do, if they start to like it, they will do it with flavor, therefore thrive.
I think that Jean Hsu's examples really strike many teenagers that have a parent such as Amy Chua's. Though my mom may not be as harsh as Mrs.Chua, I think they both have the same personality towards their children. They are demanding and not encouraging, honestly, I need to change the word 'demanding' to discouragement, because a harsh treatment will always leave a scar in a child's brain that this activity they do is created by their parent's harsh treatment. Just like Jean Hsu mentioned, teenagers under the Chua rule, must do some SAT's everyday, and excel in it. It is true, everyday I must do a thirty question SAT reading and vocabulary worksheet and an SAT writing question. The brain of a teenager can only do so much, I feel like as if it is heating up, causing the circuits in my brain to burst! In the end, Jean mentions on how she would allow her children to make free decisions and mistakes for themselves. I think this is a good idea, it not only allows them to have a peaceful and restful experience as a child, but also grow to be more independent. I think that Jean makes some very important points for people, and I hope that people who read them will understand just how harsh Amy Chua style parenting is.
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