Frankly, I do not agree with Ms.Chau and her ways of handling her kids. My mom is perhaps even more strict than her, but in some ways exactly like her. Except, the only difference between Ms.Chau and my mom is that my mom wants me to make her a lot of money to pay her back what she wanted when she's old. Therefore, I am assuming that educating me is just trying to benefit herself, which en-angers me. I would have to agree that a permissive Western Parenting way is the best for children, because I am under great stress and I am about the lose the only goal of growing up. Yet a lot of people think these parenting styles are stereotypical, but I would have to say it is true! I agreed full-heartedly to the part in the article where is explains about how a Chinese Parent expects his/her child to be the best in everything, pushing their child to the limits. This is not going to get your child anywhere; he might grow up living a mournful life, not enjoying it! Pushing you child to the limits is not going to encourage him, it will do quite the opposite. It will motivate a child to do what the parent does not want, just to prove his rights. Yes, I have done that, just because I wanted to show my mom how much I hated her ways of parenting. Just like Ms.Chau, her husband is nice, as my father is too, my dad always encourages me even when my test scores or grades are low. All he cares are the little things I do, because he assumes that the little things I do will affect what I do later in life. My dad now has a more successful business than my mom, because he believes in different things than my mom, that I mostly agree to. I think that a Wester Parenting style will promote more children to do better and work the best of their interests. There was one thing in the article that Ms.Chau explained that I did not like very well. She mentioned that she does not allow her kids to choose their extra curriculum classes; what kind of a devilish idea is that? Only a stupid parent would ever want to choose that, it will drag their kids to hell. Allow me to explain, Chinese Parents do want their children to be lawyers, architects, or engineers, but not every lawyer, architect, or engineer makes good money or business. Isn't that what Chinese Parents are looking for? Money and Business? Living the luxurious life? Well, giving your child an opportunity to choose their paths by giving them more freedom, but not too much, is going to let them get a job that he/she will enjoy. Therefore, they will do a great job on the work they have, therefore allowing them to be the best at that job, leading them to make good business. Yet, that does not make my main point clear, my main point is that, you kids will be enjoying their lives, appreciating you, also making you a luxurious person!
If you choose to bring yourself to an American society, you cannot every bring a Chinese Parenting style to morph with it. It would not work, simply won't work, because these two things will not combine. It is like trying one side of the magnet against another side that will never attract it! This is a message to my mom, that she is not leading me the right path, and that she is simply wasting my time, by making me fight back at her. Sure Bill Gates was smart, it was because he was doing what he was interested in, not because his parents were forcing him down on every specific things he does! I consider it to be ridiculous!
I would not blame a Chinese Parent in China or Korea to be strict like Ms.Chau, but in America, Chinese parents cannot be demanding to their children, because it won't work. They chose to come to an eastern society, they must cope with it. I think that Jed (husband) is doing the right thing, to ease their children, but not too much.
In conclusion, I think that a demanding parenting style is not right for an "American" kid, especially not a teen.
Full points.
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